teen sexuality: sex too soon?
Maybe there's no harm tackling this issue here. It's just that today's generations is way much different from the past. Young people at present are so much westernized, i don't know i had said that correctly. Okay let me get to the point. It's no secret: Kids are having sex younger and younger. They are not just doing it in the backseat of dad's car ( we'll yes that happens), they're even doing it in school. Yes indeed. Recently, well I'm not really sure if it happened this year or last 2007, two high school students were caught having sex inside their locker! Whew! I wonder how big their locker was for them to do such thing. The two were from a private school in Cebu City, i will no longer mention the school's name. In fact in the states, more and more teens are are going behind the school stage, under the bleachers and into abandoned classrooms to do more than hold hands. Now it gives me the scare to have a daughter! but then if you have a teenage daughter, better talk about this at home. Make her understand.
Dr. Gary offers these tips to better understanding and handling of teen sexuality.
1. Acknowledge your adolescent or teenage child is becoming a sexual being. Just like you did.
2. Realize children are becoming sexualized earlier and earlier. With the advent of the Internet, we are raising the first generation of children who are just one mouse click away from x-rated websites and other adult material. Combine that with a media that saturates kids with lots of sex and sexual imagery, and you've got a recipe for kids who are sexualized by the time they're 9 or 10 years old.
3. Raging hormones are VERY hard to combat. Give your children an outlet to burn off the overwhelming feelings stirring inside of them. Sign them up for activities like dance class or sports to help them redirect their energy.
4. Have open, honest and nonjudgmental conversations with your child about sex. Sometimes parents have selective memories about their own "growing up" experiences and sexual experimentation. So let children know that you've had the same feelings they're feeling, and it's okay.
5. And if your child does have sex? Hold them closer to you. Talk to them with forgiveness and without judgment.
Hmmm now I'm wondering how will I able to talk with yenny about this when he grows up. I don't even know how, but then that's way too far from now. Just a quick question: What's the best way to talk to kids about sex?
Dr. Gary offers these tips to better understanding and handling of teen sexuality.
1. Acknowledge your adolescent or teenage child is becoming a sexual being. Just like you did.
2. Realize children are becoming sexualized earlier and earlier. With the advent of the Internet, we are raising the first generation of children who are just one mouse click away from x-rated websites and other adult material. Combine that with a media that saturates kids with lots of sex and sexual imagery, and you've got a recipe for kids who are sexualized by the time they're 9 or 10 years old.
3. Raging hormones are VERY hard to combat. Give your children an outlet to burn off the overwhelming feelings stirring inside of them. Sign them up for activities like dance class or sports to help them redirect their energy.
4. Have open, honest and nonjudgmental conversations with your child about sex. Sometimes parents have selective memories about their own "growing up" experiences and sexual experimentation. So let children know that you've had the same feelings they're feeling, and it's okay.
5. And if your child does have sex? Hold them closer to you. Talk to them with forgiveness and without judgment.
Hmmm now I'm wondering how will I able to talk with yenny about this when he grows up. I don't even know how, but then that's way too far from now. Just a quick question: What's the best way to talk to kids about sex?
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This is a sad reality. The blame still ends up with the parents...